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“A blind man walks into a restaurant and sits down. The waitress, who is also the owner, walks up to the blind man and hands her a menu. “I’m sorry, Madam, but I am blind and can’t read the menu. Just bring me a dirty plate from a previous customer, I’ll smell it and order from there.” A little confused, the owner walks over to the dirty pile and picks up a greasy plate . She returns to the blind man’s table and hands it to him. The blind man takes the plate to his nose and takes in a deep breath. “Ah, yes, that’s what I’ll have, chicken kabab , potato fry and steamed broccoli .”“Unbelievable”—- the owner says to himself as she walks towards the kitchen. The cook happens to be the owner’s husband and she tells him what had just happened. The blind man eats his meal and leaves. Several days later the blind man returns and the owner mistakingly brings her a menu again. “Madam, remember me? I’m the blind man.” “I’m sorry, I didn’t recognize you. I’ll go get you a dirty plate.” The owner again retrieves a dirty plate and brings it to the blind man. After another deep breath, the blind man says, “That smells great, I’ll take the roasted pork loin and cherry pie.”Once again walking away in disbelief, the owner thinks the blind man is screwing around with her and tells her husband that the next time the blind man comes in she’s going to test him.The blind man eats and leaves. He returns the following week, but this time the owner see’s her coming and runs to the kitchen. She tells her husband,  “Pidro, rub this plate with your clothes before I take it to the blind man.” He complies and hands his wife the plate back. As the blind man walks in and sits down, the owner is ready and waiting. “Good afternoon sir, this time I remembered you and I already have the plate ready for you.”The blind man puts the plate to his nose, takes a deep whiff and says, “Hey, I didn’t know that Pidro worked here?”

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Some people arent blind, some just pretend to be. Even those blind, are blind because it is an easy option.  Lying and deceiving is a common feature of psychopathy, yet few studies have explored the behaviours of psychopaths while they lie. Extant research suggests that, contrary to what might be expected, psychopathy is generally unrelated to a greater capacity for successful lying behavior. However, it may be that psychopathic offenders are able to deceive successfully by making use of interpersonal skills that are not captured by relatively structured assessments. Their ability to captivate and appear genuine while conning and manipulating others may be enhanced by an effective nonverbal behavioral presentation. Interpersonal features of psychopathy were associated with inflated views of lying ability, verbosity, and increases blinking, illustrator use, and speech hesitations. While lying, the more psychopathic offenders spoke faster and demonstrated increases in blinking and head movements. Indicators of deception in offenders were somewhat different from those typically observed in non-offender populations. These findings indicate that personality factors may have an impact on nonverbal indicators of deception in criminal justice settings where the detection of deception is of utmost concern. Here is my pithy distillation: There are common stereotypes about the liar, and these should not be ignored. Liars shift their posture, they touch and scratch themselves, liars are nervous, and their speech is flawed. These beliefs are common across the globe. Yet in prevalence, these stereotypes are dwarfed by the most common belief about liars: ‘they can’t look you in the eye’.” If stereotypes about lying do not reflect observations of deceptive behavior, how do they arise? Let us propose an answer to this question. Stereotypes about lying are designed to discourage lies. They are not intended to be descriptive; rather, they embody a worldwide norm. The liars were told what lie to tell (as opposed to being able to make one up). Real guilty suspects who decide to lie will presumably choose a lie that  they think they stand a good chance of being able to get away with. In real world conditions, the perception by the guilty individual of what sort of situation they’re in, the evidence against them, the plausible story they can tell to explain away the evidence, and their ability to lie effectively are probably all important. First we’ve got to dump the misconceptions: People don’t actually fidget and look away when they’re lying. Less blinking, more pauses in talking, vocal tension, pupil dilation, chin raise and nervousness don’t consistently across different people mean someone is lying. It may be particularly difficult to detect lies in close friends or partners as we have come to trust them and don’t expect them to lie to us. How do these misconceptions come about? First we are badly informed by popular culture and second we think we’re displaying these signs when lying ourselves - when actually we’re not. So, with those misconceptions dealt with, what can psychology research tell us about how to detect lies?  Individual differences are key. Some people’s natural behaviour looks honest while others’ natural behaviour doesn’t. This won’t tell you whether each is lying. e.g. introverts or socially nervous people tend to look as though they’re lying when they’re not. The way to do it is using comparisons. It’s possible to spot falsehoods when they are compared with truthful statements. Micro-expressions. Good lie detectors can pick up on tiny facial movements that give away lies. The problem is that they’re ‘micro’ so they’re difficult to detect. Vocal inflection can be vital. There’s evidence it’s easier to detect lies just from the voice. The eyes are relatively easy to control and it can be better if we can’t see them. Rely on intuition. People may be better at detecting lies with their intuition. Implicit or broadly unconscious processes can be more effective than conscious directed thought. Lying is hard work. Lying can place high cognitive demands on an individual - putting more pressure on a suspected liar can help with detection. Next time you’re tempted to assume your partner would never lie to you but the nervous-looking person in the office probably does, stop and think again. Research on lying in nonverbal psychology has clearly shown that misunderstandings are rife.

10 Ways to Catch a Liar

1: Inconsistencies. When you want to know if someone is lying, look for inconsistencies in what they are saying.

2: Ask the Unexpected. Watch them carefully, and then when they don’t expect it, ask them one question that they are not prepared to answer to trip them up.

3: Gauge Against a Baseline. The trick, explains is to gauge their behavior against a baseline. Is a person’s behavior falling away from how they would normally act? If it is, that could mean that something is up.

4: Look for Insincere Emotions. Most people can’t fake smile, the timing will be wrong, it will be held too long, or it will be blended with other things.

5: Pay Attention to Gut Reactions. People say, ‘Oh, it was a gut reaction or women’s intuition,’ but what I think they are picking up on are the deviations of true emotions.

6: Watch for Microexpressions. A microexpression is a very brief expression, usually about a 25th of a second, that is always a concealed emotion.

7: Look for Contradictions. The general rule is anything that a person does with their voice or their gesture that doesn’t fit the words they are saying can indicate a lie.

1 to 7 are all sensible, well-founded tips. I have a couple of caveats on 8 and 9:

8: A Sense of Unease. When someone isn’t making eye contact and that’s against how they normally act, it can mean they’re not being honest.

Emphasis added - lack of eye contact in itself is not a reliable indicator of deception, but if it is out of character then you might have to ask yourself: why the change in behaviour? All of which underlines the importance of establishing baseline behaviour (tip 3).

9: Too Much Detail. Too much detail could mean they’ve put a lot of thought into how they’re going to get out of a situation and they’ve crafted a complicated lie as a solution. Caveat: unless they’re the sort of person who always provides excessive detail in stories (some people are just like that!).

10: Don’t Ignore the Truth. It’s more important to recognize when someone is telling the truth than telling a lie because people can look like they’re lying but be telling truth.

Healthy eating is not about strict nutrition philosophies, staying unrealistically thin, or depriving yourself of the foods you love. Rather, it’s about feeling great, having more energy, stabilizing your mood, and keeping yourself as healthy as possible– all of which can be achieved by learning some nutrition basics and using them in a way that works for you. You can expand your range of healthy food choices and learn how to plan ahead to create and maintain a tasty, healthy diet.

1: Set yourself up for success

To set yourself up for success, think about planning a healthy diet as a number of small, manageable steps rather than one big drastic change. If you approach the changes gradually and with commitment, you will have a healthy diet sooner than you think.

• Simplify. Focus on finding foods you love and easy recipes that incorporate a few fresh ingredients. Gradually, your diet will become healthier and more delicious.
• Start slow and make changes to your eating habits over time. Make small steps, like adding a salad (full of different color vegetables) to your diet once a day or switching from butter to olive oil when cooking.  As your small changes become habit, you can continue to add more healthy choices to your diet.
• Every change you make to improve your diet matters. You don’t have to be perfect and you don’t have to completely eliminate foods you enjoy to have a healthy diet.

2: Moderation is key 

People often think of healthy eating as an all or nothing proposition, but a key foundation for any healthy diet is moderation.  Despite what certain fad diets would have you believe, we all need a balance of carbohydrates, protein, fat, fiber, vitamins, and minerals to sustain a healthy body.

• Try not to think of certain foods as “off-limits.” When you ban certain foods or food groups, it is natural to want those foods more, and then feel like a failure if you give in to temptation. If you are drawn towards sweet, salty, or unhealthy foods, start by reducing portion sizes and not eating them as often. Later you may find yourself craving them less or thinking of them as only occasional indulgences.
• Think smaller portions. Serving sizes have ballooned recently, particularly in restaurants. When dining out, choose a starter instead of an entrée, split a dish with a friend, and don’t order supersized anything. At home, use smaller plates, think about serving sizes in realistic terms, and start small.  Visual cues can help with portion sizes—your serving of meat, fish, or chicken should be the size of a deck of cards. A teaspoon of oil or salad dressing is about the size of a matchbook and your slice of bread should be the size of a CD case.

3: It’s not just what you eat, it’s how you eat

Healthy eating is about more than the food on your plate—it is also about how you think about food. Healthy eating habits can be learned and it is important to slow down and think about food as nourishment rather than just something to gulp down in between meetings or on the way to pick up the kids.

• Eat with others whenever possible. Eating with other people has numerous social and emotional benefits—particularly for children—and allows you to model healthy eating habits. Eating in front of the TV or computer often leads to mindless overeating.
• Take time to chew your food and enjoy mealtimes. Chew your food slowly, savoring every bite. We tend to rush though our meals, forgetting to actually taste the flavors and feel the textures of our food. Reconnect with the joy of eating.
• Listen to your body. Ask yourself if you are really hungry, or have a glass of water to see if you are thirsty instead of hungry. During a meal, stop eating before you feel full. It actually takes a few minutes for your brain to tell your body that it has had enough food, so eat slowly.
• Eat breakfast, and eat smaller meals throughout the day. A healthy breakfast can jumpstart your metabolism, and eating small, healthy meals throughout the day (rather than the standard three large meals) keeps your energy up and your metabolism going.

4: Fill up on colorful fruits and vegetables 

Fruits and vegetables are the foundation of a healthy diet. They are low in calories and nutrient dense, which means they are packed with vitamins, minerals, antioxidants, and fiber.

Try to eat a rainbow of fruits and vegetables every day and with every meal—the brighter the better. Colorful, deeply colored fruits and vegetables contain higher concentrations of vitamins, minerals, and antioxidants—and different colors provide different benefits, so eat a variety. Aim for a minimum of five portions each day.

Some great choices include:

• Greens. Branch out beyond bright and dark green lettuce. Kale, mustard greens, broccoli, and Chinese cabbage are just a few of the options—all packed with calcium, magnesium, iron, potassium, zinc, and vitamins A, C, E, and K.
• Sweet vegetables. Naturally sweet vegetables—such as corn, carrots, beets, sweet potatoes, yams, onions, and squash—add healthy sweetness to your meals and reduce your cravings for other sweets.
• Fruit. Fruit is a tasty, satisfying way to fill up on fiber, vitamins, and antioxidants. Berries are cancer-fighting, apples provide fiber, oranges and mangos offer vitamin C, and so on.

5: Eat more healthy carbs and whole grains

Choose healthy carbohydrates and fiber sources, especially whole grains, for long lasting energy. In addition to being delicious and satisfying, whole grains are rich in phytochemicals and antioxidants, which help to protect against coronary heart disease, certain cancers, and diabetes. Studies have shown people who eat more whole grains tend to have a healthier heart.

6: Enjoy healthy fats & avoid unhealthy fats

Good sources of healthy fat are needed to nourish your brain, heart, and cells, as well as your hair, skin, and nails.  Foods rich in certain omega-3 fats called EPA and DHA are particularly important and can reduce cardiovascular disease, improve your mood, and help prevent dementia.

7: Put protein in perspective

Protein gives us the energy to get up and go—and keep going. Protein in food is broken down into the 20 amino acids that are the body’s basic building blocks for growth and energy, and essential for maintaining cells, tissues, and organs. A lack of protein in our diet can slow growth, reduce muscle mass, lower immunity, and weaken the heart and respiratory system. Protein is particularly important for children, whose bodies are growing and changing daily.

8: Add calcium for strong bones

Calcium is one of the key nutrients that your body needs in order to stay strong and healthy. It is an essential building block for lifelong bone health in both men and women, as well as many other important functions.

You and your bones will benefit from eating plenty of calcium-rich foods, limiting foods that deplete your body’s calcium stores, and getting your daily dose of magnesium and vitamins D and K—nutrients that help calcium do its job.

Recommended calcium levels are 1000 mg per day, 1200 mg if you are over 50 years old. Take a vitamin D and calcium supplement if you don’t get enough of these nutrients from your diet.

9: Limit sugar and salt

If you succeed in planning your diet around fiber-rich fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean protein, and good fats, you may find yourself naturally cutting back on foods that can get in the way of your healthy diet—sugar and salt.

Violence is amply common that sometimes you need to use your hands, head and heart together just to beat one!!! But there are times that you really hate the fact that it’s hard to change those things and those absurd rules of them. Fortunately, i have become immune to changes, just like in a game, sometimes you need to beat them before you can join them…you need to win some and loose some. Some says that coaching is even better…make it one powerful learning experience after another and they will be hooked on learning!!! But i guess if you can’t beat them, you’d better think of how to beat them! or this is much better to…BEAT THEM first…then JOIN THEM!!!

My Manifesto is all about my personal mission,  values and what drives ME forward, all wrapped up into one. I have drawn everything i’ve already discovered about myself and bring it all together into a clear statement of my principles and priorities.

I have tried to create a workplace environment where employees feel like they’re actually members of a greater family. A sense of common purpose, mutual respect, and deep trust that everyone should feel important and as though they’re a meaningful member… An environment that empowers people to share in the hard work and in the benefits. I have made it a priority to ensure that my work gives us a sense of satisfaction. When i wake up in the morning… i can’t wait to get on the phone, check our display of finest product, get online, and get everyone in gear. The work i do is truly the work i love!!! For me, there’s nothing that turns on more than facing a challenge and transforming it into an opportunity. There’s nothing more thrilling than seeing a customer enjoys the product…our own (Xerten Cafe) product. There’s nothing more gratifying also than helping someone else turn a dream into a real business. And over time, i’ve found that my fulfillment comes as much from the process of trying to achieve my goals.

I think work is about pursuing my dreams, not for the benefit of Xerten Cafe, but for myself. To share, here are simple strategic action items i developed in order to transform a plan from a self-assessment into an action plan. At this point in life planning, i know where i want to go, what skills i already have, as well as what type of work suits me best. Here’s a list of moves you might need to make to achieve your ideal life and to get where you want to go also…

HERE’S TEN!

1. Using your life plan. As we always say, plan your life, then plan your business. Some of the most successful and happy people i know are entrepreneurs who created a business that’s in perfect synchronicity with what they want out of life. If you do what you love, you’ll work harder, better and more happily. In this regard, your life plan will position you to do what you LOVE and that always brings out the best in an ENTREPRENEUR.

2. Choosing a Business Model. Thanks to technology :0), there are more business models to choose from than ever before. The key is to choose a business model that fits your life plan. This will ensure that you spend the right number of hours each week, take the right level of risk in terms of your financial wherewithal, and gain the kind of satisfaction and success you’re after.

3. Create a Business Plan. In my experience, the process of creating and writing a business plan is as valuable as the end product itself. Just remember that the most important audience for a business plan is YOU!! You’ll be forced to be accountable to all of the statements, claims, stats and facts inside of it (business description, market analysis, marketing and distribution, personnel and financials).

4. Select A Business Structure. “To each his own,” as the expression goes. The same holds true for business structures—there’s no universally “right” structure for all businesses. Choosing the best one depends on the specific needs you and your business have.

5. Create Key Business Assets. It’s a well-known fact in the business world: Your company assets are only as good as your ability to protect them. This is especially true where intellectual property is concerned. Whether it’s your company name, logo, latest invention or best-selling product, it’s imperative that you take certain steps to secure your ownership rights.

6. Find the Funding. This is a critical step. You’ve got to find funding for your business but ensure that it’s the right kind of funding. Yes, there’s the adage, “beggars can’t be choosers,” but the fact is, you must be selective and smart when seeking money for your startup or it could turn your dream business into a nightmare.

7. Organize Logistics. Logistics are not the most exciting aspect of starting up a business, but having your logistics in order can mean the difference between success and failure. Having your books in order, your contracts buttoned up, your money safely managed and your downside covered are each critical to your personal and business future.

8. Find Great People. The Power of People. The single most important factor in the success of a company is its people. It all starts with you as the entrepreneur and flows from there to everyone on your team. Great people can take a mediocre idea and turn it into success. But no matter how great the idea is, if you have mediocre people on the team it will not succeed. It’s the quality of the people.

9. Establish a Brand. One of the most important assets you can develop for your business is a powerful brand. Brands are not just logos or tag lines. Brands are the culmination of who you are, how you’re different from your competition, and why a buyer should do business with you. Whether you’re an established company or small start-up, a brand has tremendous impact.

10. Market and Sell. This is all about getting the word out about your business so customers come through your door (or perhaps to your homepage). First and foremost, you’ll need to study up on your target audience to develop a marketing message that will resonate with them. Once you’ve got a grasp of how to best express the “special sauce” of what you offer, make sure you maintain that message consistently throughout your marketing efforts. It should be reinforced repeatedly to build on your brand identity and to give people a clear reason to be interested in your business.

HellO EVerYOne :)  It’S tIMe To pUbLIsh My bLOg

Blogs are everywhere, they’re on reference sites, corporate sites, entertainment sites, personal web sites and just about every other genre of web site. Blogs….aha…i think it’s about getting your cogitations out to the public, a more personal online diaries without the restraints of those inflexible templates and unfamiliar blog softwares. Some blogs are simply online journals chronicling some adventure, while others are written on a central theme and ask readers to create their own free blogs in response, creating a community. I think i’m gonna love tumblr blogging, snappy blogging! or even essay type ! or whatever and i think you will too… :-)

My blogs!!! let’s say this will contain my shared online journal about personal topics that each of the human (whose life lies outside of the EARTH) can convert code into an ordinary language… That’s it. I think it’s time you go check some of my stuff out for yourself…